When I was an undergrad I became a Sexual Health Advocate. Honestly, I think this is where my interest in helping people talk freely about sexual topics began. We were put through training and sent off on campus to do various workshops with different groups of fellow students. It's there that I met Amy Jo Goddard. I secretly had a crush on her and her girlfriend at the time. I don't know that I ever told her that. Hey, Amy Jo, if you're reading out there, yes, it's true :-). I got to lead workshops about safer sex, sex toys, contraceptive options and I even owned my own plastic speculum which I used in workshops about GYN exam related topics. We gave people tools to use when communicating about sexual topics with new partners. We taught facts and stigmas around STI's. I even got to teach people how to put a condom on with no hands. Yes, I've been talking about sex with strangers for a while now.
I wasn't studying anything having to do with human sexuality. I just was very interested in freeing myself from a very strict up bringing & healing as a sexual abuse survivor. I was fascinated by the fact that so many people seemed uncomfortable talking about sexual topics. Volunteering and community service was at the core of who I was. This was a perfect fuse of all these things. Amy Jo however was actually studying Human Sexuality. "How cool was that!" I thought.
I had the opportunity to work with her in a play she wrote, produced and directed called Vulvalution. It is one of my favorite projects to date because I got to play a very butch character named Blue, *b-boy stance* ;-). I think it was around that time that she had a book called Lesbian Sex for Men coming out. We lost touch soon after that I believe. Then the Facebooks happened and re-connection happened and lo and behold she was a full-blown sex educating star-uh! She's even been endorsed by Justin "Bringing Sexy Back" Timberlake. Whaaaaat?!?! Needless to say, this is a totally biased plug but a totally honest evaluation: Amy Jo Goddard is doing the dern thang.
She has a free class coming up April 3rd at 8pm EST:
Coming Home to Your Sexual Self... When You Didn't Know You Had Left
Free Call on Wednesday, April 3rd with Amy Jo Goddard, Sexual Empowerment Coach Register here.
It can happen so easily -- when sex falls to the bottom of the priority list, when the relationship plateaus, when you look in the mirror and can't remember when the last time was you had amazing sex, powerful orgasms, deep intimacy, and truly satisfying pleasure.
Or when something happens with a partner and you feel knocked off your center, disconnected from your sexual confidence and power.
Could this be you right now? Is it possible that you've left yourself somewhere along the way… perhaps without realizing it?
My friend and colleague Amy Jo is a sexual empowerment coach who does amazing work with women and couples on their sexuality and relationships. And she's offering a free 75-minute call, no strings attached, for people who feel like they've gotten off track sexually and want to find their way back home to a place of radical self-love, authenticity, and openness to all the pleasure, abundance and rockin' great sex that life has to offer. It's called "Coming Home to Your Sexual Self... When You Didn't Know You Left."
What a great topic! To get on the list for this free call, go here. Come home, beautiful! It's time!
ESSENCE REVEALED - Essence Revealed is first generation Bajan born & raised in Boston. She got her BFA at NYU's Tisch School of the Arts and MA at NYU's Steinhardt School of Education. Her writing has appeared places such as $pread Magazine, Corset Magazine, BurlesqueBible.com and 21st Century Burlesque. She now performs & teaches nationally and internationally both solo and as a member of Brown Girls Burlesque. Her favorite thing to do besides reading is to lay on the beach in Barbados to rest up for a night of calypso dancing. Help Essence get to the Milan Burlesque Awards!